Are Our Relationships For a Reason, Season, Lifetime?
When we meet someone new, would they come in for a reason, season, lifetime?
A long time ago, someone said to me.
From strangers to friends to lovers,—this is how the love began.
People always come into our life all the time.
Just as quickly, and quietly, some will leave like ships that pass in the night.
They come for a reason.
Sometimes for a season.
The best, they stay for a lifetime.
It is almost impossible to figure out which is what during the time we spend together.
How to Know If Our Relationships Last For a Reason, Season, Lifetime?
I feel that it is the energy that we exude that draws people to us.
For many years, I am drawn to others.
Some are drawn to me.
I always believe that we recognize each other.
Are we soulmates?
Do we hold on to this false belief that our spiritual half has been determined even before we were born?
That each soul has a perfect match – our soulmate.
Our true spiritual soulmate is the one person who is here to help our “complete ourselves.”
If we buy the idea that God creates our half and not whole.
Do we believe that a person cannot complete his or her mission in life alone?
Or that everyone needs a special someone to help them become a better person?
Different people knock at our doors at different times in our lifetime.
Once we realize that they enter our lives to fulfill a need or a purpose—to teach us or learn from us; they stay for a reason, season, or a lifetime.
Although most people think of a soulmate as a perfectly harmonious union of bliss, our true spiritual soulmate is the person who should help our “complete ourselves.”
Jerry McGuire was right—soul mates complete each other.
This is not always a blissful experience.
Relationships For a Reason
Relationships can help us be better a person.
I have the energy to do things for others that I wouldn’t do for myself.
I have learned to be an encourager in recent years—not because I am so positive myself.
Or that I am a born motivator, but I mirror someone who does this effortlessly daily.
Often when someone is in our life for a REASON, this is because of a need we have expressed in our heart or vocalized.
When we figure out which it is, we know exactly what to do.
The people who drop in for a reason, they enter our world to fulfill a purpose—then we part ways.
A lot of times, we don’t even know the reason until after they leave.
Sometimes years later.
I met two women who encouraged me on my journey to write.
For one woman, I was her “Pet Project”—someone to fix.
I remember these years later with great humor, the reason we parted ways, I have long since forgotten.
I no longer remember.
For me, this was a life-transforming moment.
The intensity of the bond we shared was superficial and shallow.
However, the situation brought about changes in my aptitude, attitude, behavior, and lifestyle for good.
“Be with someone who wants to see you grow.” – Toni Payne
Relationships For a Season
All of us want to find our happily ever after.
We want to choose and attract healthy, happy, non-toxic dates, and relationships.
How long is a season? A year? A decade?
Like the seasons, there are four seasons to every relationship.
And just like the weather, all relationships go through several changes, shifts, and their own unique seasons.
All the phases work together to help stretch us and grow us.
Fulfilling relationships contain harmony and discord.
As we grow in a relationship, we embrace the changes and accept these for what they are.
We want to grow closer together, build on each other’s strengths rather than to fall apart.
Spring of Relationships
The first season and the blossom of a new relationship are often the happiest and most harmonious.
Everything is new and exciting.
We get to know each other, learn more about both ourselves and our partners during this time.
Spring is the time to delight in new experiences.
The first time we hold hands.
Our first kisses.
Meeting each other’s friends.
Traveling together for the first time.
We’re hungry for the other person during this spring season of a relationship.
More often than not, we are more willing to look past things we normally don’t find acceptable.
Summer of Relationships
We know the season as the “honeymoon period” when we put each other on the pedestal, and our partners could do no wrong during this rose-colored phase.
Just as the budding spring of a new romance, we like to keep the peace and the intimacy flowing.
We excuse little things that annoy us, making every event an opportunity to make happy memories that sustain us both through the hard times.
In our eagerness to fall in love, many of us play up when we found out the other person to be interesting to we’re both interested in each other.
Autumn of Relationships
The autumn season signals a time of death, but also a rebirth for our relationship.
Are the cracks beginning to show?
Do we see our partner’s flaws and faults and point these out?
There could be complex emotions surfacing from either running into a former partner to spending time with an elderly parent.
The nagging starts. The bickering and fighting begin – these lead to judgment, arguments, withholding love, and giving the cold shoulders.
It’s the first warning horn of the next season—winter.
Winter of Relationships
Don’t be afraid of winter.
Winter is the season when we let go of perfection’s ideals and reveal the depth of our feelings and emotions with our partners.
If it prepares us for it, winter can be a time of authenticity, bonding, and transformative growth.
Those who find it hard to let go of the need to see our partners only in the best light—we might explode, lashing out, mudslinging, belittling as the being perfect is unrealistic and not achievable.
Relationship For a Lifetime
The most romantic quote from the film Jerry McGuire was the words that melt our hearts.
It wasn’t the cliché, “I Love You.”
But it was one that spells soulmate and a relationship that would last a lifetime.
“You Complete Me.”
When Jerry confessed his love for Dorothy for romantics, we think we will never be happy, complete, or whole until we find our soulmate.
When the lights go up, the credits roll, we fall with a thud into the actual world—searching for our soulmates.
Would we recognize each other?
Do we even live in the same city, zip code, or so far across the world—that our days and nights are opposites.
At the beginning of any relationship, we won’t think it will last a lifetime.
Years later, real-life puts everything into perspective.
I hate to live with regret.
I want to live with happiness.
Are you like me?
The eternal optimist who only want to believe that relationship is going to be everlasting for a lifetime.
For instance, sometimes we meet someone we fall in love with.
This person is happy, full of life, and live with a zest-free-spirited person who trusts God completely.
We worry a lot or may feel anxious.
So, we also learn to become free like them and have more fun with life.
Lifetime relationships are an integral part of our lives as they are with us for a long time.
Often these are family relationships or long-term relations that accept and love us unconditionally.
Our parents are with us for decades and are there with us in our thick and thin times.
We learn to accept the lesson and apply it to our life.
Parents, siblings, lifelong friends, help develop a solid support system and contribute to who we are as a person.
Why Are They Here For a Reason, Season, Lifetime?
Our partners come to us to fulfill a need, teach a lesson, or help us to apply those lessons in our lives.
Our job is to accept the lessons and be grateful to the person who blesses us with this learning gift. Whether they are there for a reason, season, or a lifetime, we must realize one thing – their role in our lives is indispensable.
We must value their presence as they are God sent.
Sometimes They Leave…
When they leave, we need to see separation positively rather than perceiving it as a tragic event.
Sometimes I wrestle with the thought of how our friends leave.
I have had friends who leave suddenly.
I never saw them alive again.
Sometimes I find out years later. Sometimes not at all.
Is it better that we saw no one grow old sick and leave?
How we respond to the separation makes us grow mentally, emotionally, and physically.
This poem inspired me “Reason, Season, or Lifetime” which teaches us about accepting the impermanence of relationships and recognizing the lessons that affect our lives.
Reason Season Lifetime Poem
People come into our life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When we figure out which it is, we know exactly what to do.
When someone is in our life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need we have expressed outwardly or inwardly.
They assist us through difficulty, provide us with guidance and support, and aid us physically, emotionally, or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for a reason we need them to be.
Then, with no wrongdoing on our part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up or out and force us to take a stand.
We realize that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, and their work is done.
The prayer we sent up has been answered, and it is now time to move on.
When people come into our life for a SEASON, our turn shares grows or learns.
They may bring us an experience of peace or make us laugh. They may teach us something we have never done.
They usually give us an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach our lifetime lessons; those things we must build upon to have a solid emotional foundation.
Our job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway), and put what we have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of our life.
It is said that LOVE is blind, but FRIENDSHIP is clairvoyant.
— Traci Smith
Reason Season Lifetime Summary
What is the meaning of relationships for a reason, season, or lifetime?
People come into our lives for a Reason, Season, or Lifetime.
Some people come into our lives for a reason.
Like our Godsent guide, they help us physically, emotionally, or spiritually. Their presence completely transforms our lives.
They might be there to fulfill our needs or offer us something new to learn.
They can open an all-new doorway in our life—things we may have never discovered by ourselves.
Once the purpose for which they came into our life is served – they leave.
They may no longer feel connected to us anymore and leave us.
Sometimes they die.
No one lives forever.
The end of this relationship might leave us too devastated to mourn.
However, once we can see the truth, we can let it go easily.
I have many people who enter my life to make me realize my strengths.
They see my potential and show me possibilities.
I have changed my career path just because someone helped me recognize my gift.
Some are there to journey along and share and celebrate my life with me in all my moments.
They entered my life for a special season and helped me to something we have never done or taken me to a place I have never been before.
They inspire us and aid us in realizing our true potential.
It is during these times, we learn, grow, and expand further.
Such people are also there for a limited period.
They also come and go, just like a season.
Once a season gets over, it’s time for them to take off.
Our job is to learn from our experience with them and be grateful for what they taught us.
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